[Sundae]

Ah it'll be okay.
I was just angry at him moving the goalposts, and then acting like I was the unreasonable one.

He's been in a bad mood the last two days because he has money problems.
I thought he started working again when his money ran out, but it turns out he'd been living on credit/ overdraft for a while.

He's far better with money than me, but I actually have better self-motivation. He goes further once he's started, but getting started is harder.

Anyway his first pay cheque had his name spelled wrong. It had to be reissued and took longer than expected. The payment extension date he had for a mortgage payment therefore came and went, and things started bouncing from his bank account. So he got charged each time and owed more money.

This all came to light (for me) Thurs/ Fri. I think he kept it from me because he was embarrassed - he's always lectured me about money, and we both know he could have walked into bar work at any point in those 6 months he wasn't working. In fact I only know about it now because he was on the phone Thursday night when I came home and they woke him up Friday morning calling again.

So effectively he was in a pissy mood, saw the bin and the dishwasher and decided if he had to unload them after a long day on minimum wages, he'd unload on me too.

Long term I'm fine about it. I'll just do more visible things. I'll make the bathroom cleans regular, rather than when I feel like it. I'll check the dishwasher and the bin every day (it's not my dishes or my rubbish any more, but it's no skin off my nose). And I'll do a Saturday clean every week.

I'm really quite happy to do it, and I'll put his unfairness down to him having a shitty week.