[Trilby]

because tw brought it up and seems to be seriously interested in my own behaviour here I will tell him: tw, I am very self conscious in class as I am nearly always the oldest student in the room. I am very careful to remember that these are very, very young adults---kids, dare I say?---that I am with. Recalling my own young college days and my own family, I try hard to be kind to them all, knowing all the insecurities and jealousies and pettiness and angst about the grown up world ("what shall i do? will I be able to make a living? what if my boyfriend dumps me? Will he dump me when he finds out I've a wart on my toe? Why do I hate random people?") that they may have. I've done NOTHING to this girl. I've smiled nicely at her when she has made comments about works, I've encouraged her (along with the rest of the class) to share her work, and that's about IT. Now, is it possible that she sees me as some harpie with a loud mouth? No. I rarely say anything in class that isn't related to the work. this is a YOUNG class and they get off topic frequently, talk among themselves frequently (which I do not join in as is inappropriate for someone their mother's age to banter like that about drinking and smoking pot and hooking up, etc) so. NO. I've done nothing to her, said only kind things to her and congratulated her on 'getting into grad school'. She said it was some school in Portland OR. and I said, "oh, that is a lovely place, I think you will really like it there," clearly, a confrontational statement, right tw?

If you had READ my first post, you would see that I explained I'd done nothing that I could see in my most scrutinizing mind to annoy this young woman.
But you don't know how to read. You only know how to write.