The dude is Mormon, so he won't even touch caffiiene drinks, let alone alcohol.
I'm not the type of guy to offer relationship-finding help without some indication from the person that he or she wants it. In fact, with this friend, it's the first time I've
ever asked a girl out on someone else's behalf. In the past, I have directly asked him if he wanted my help, and he's accepted. I'm not just being Mr. Now-I-have-a-relationship-so-I-want-all-my-single-friends-to-have-one, I'm trying to help him resolve a problem which he is often describing... Note the sixth item in my original list:
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6. He talks about wanting companionship, but does nothing about it.
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...this "talk" I refer to is stuff along te lines of "why can't I find a girl?" and "I don't know why it's so hard to find someone." Well.... it helps if you'll actually
talk to girls, or make occasional
eye contact.... a
smile in their direction would be a good start. Bah, nevermind. But to me, such statements do not indicate someone who is happy without companionship.
I can identify with him to a degree... I used to be shy. I used to be really, really, damn shy around girls, and a lot of people said I was more scared of girls than any other person they'd ever met. It would take all my courage to ask a girl out, and my mouth would dry up and my knees would feel funny and my own voice would sound distant inside my skull. After I asked them out and went on my way, I'd be nauseous for an hour. But I was able to make myself do it. In my early twenties something clicked in my head, and I realized that girls weren't scary, and for awhile I was a regular swinger, with 2-3 dates a week with different girls. I did some stupid things and got into trouble, but that's a story for another day.
But, I had my turn at the girls-are-terrifying thing, and despite that I managed to grow a pair once in a while and get a few dates anyway. My point is that I don't think shyness is the reason my friend won't ask girls out, at least not entirely.