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Originally Posted by Aliantha
Maybe these things are occuring because western society is finally starting to realize that we've put unrealistic expectations/restrictions on our behaviours with regard to things that are natural and right.
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Being moral is conforming to a standard of what is right and good. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. Being sexually promiscuous is not right or good in my opinon, and in the opinion of the world's major religions. And its not confined to 'western society'. If you are religious, your God has 'rules' on right and wrong behavior. For those that question the divine inspiration of religion, one factor pointed to for their creation was to keep a society in order. And order necessitates rules of right and wrong behavior.
So why would sexual promiscuity be wrong? Because it is bad for society. Why is it bad? First is the obvious chance of unwanted pregnancy. Unwanted children is a burden on the society. Second is the risk of STDs, which can be fairly harmless (warts), causing infertility (chlamydia, gonorrhea), or lead to death (Hepititis C, HIV). The second two aren't particularly good for a society that needs a healthy thriving population. As for the argument of birth control and condoms, they are not 100% effective, and a lot of people don't use them. Third is the breaking apart of family, as husbands and wives cheat on each other to do what 'feels good', giving into instant gratification, instead of doing what is right. In the end giving into temptation to do what feels good leads to pain - physical and mental. Even if the pain is not instantaneous, or felt within a week or month... at some point many people come to regret their previous behavior. Does a man want to marry a slut, and wonder when they go to dinner how many men in the restaurant she screwed? Does a woman want to marry a whore, and wonder just how many children he has running around the world? Is that something you would want to brag to your parents "hey mom, I'm marrying the biggest whore on campus, but don't worry, his/her chlamydia cleared up with antibiotics."
I don't want my son to grow up and sleep with a different person every Friday night. That's not happiness. That's instant gratification. I want him to date, and find that special someone who will make him happy for the rest of his life - not just for an hour or a night. Jumping into bed with someone on the first date complicates the dating process. Not that it means it won't work... but chances are it won't. There will always be the question "does he/she jump in bed with everyone she/he went on a date with?" One (or both) parties may feel that since they slept together, they should automatically be 'dating' whether they are compatible or not, leading to months/years of unfullfillment on a higher emotional level... instead of going on a few dates without sex and coming to the conclusion that they aren't compatible, and being able to walk away without the emotions that sex carries.