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Originally Posted by anonymous
i am in a great relationship
three years now
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Originally Posted by anonymous
these are just chronic problems that have been in our relationship the whole time
nothing that's going to seriously drive us apart but it needs to be fixed or at least dealt with better than it has been
how do i overcome this insecurity
my feelings and emotions are really at a discomfort if there are problems between us
i wish i was more independent and could still function during fights and worries
but i'm definitely not there yet
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If you have chronic problems, is the relationship really that great? Or do you stay in the relationship for fear of being alone?
A lot of people stay in a relationship because they fear being alone. What they don't realize is that you
can be happy alone. And you can find someone that you will have a better relationship with.
My husband and I have had our bumps along the way. We have so much in common... yet can disagree on so much. But we love each other, and we want to make each other happy. That's the key - we want to make each other happy. Nothing makes me smile like seeing him smile. Its not just that I do things to make him happy, its that
I want to do things that make him smile, and
he wants to do things to make me smile.
It sounds like you s.o. doesn't value your happiness. If he/she doesn't, you need to. And you need to define what will make you happy. You can't make your s.o. change, so either you need to find a way to be happy within this relationship, or you need to move on.
And yes, I know, its hard. Always easier said than done.