[Sundae]

Well I expect there are a number of us who tried to be supportive to V who are now worried we might be in the running for Chief Wench Wannabe.

I don't remember any significant PMs to V, but I did encourage him to start the process of healing and moving on in his life because I understood from his posts that there was no way the relationship could be healed. I've seen far too many men and women hurt for longer than they had to out of a false belief that they still had a chance.

There's only two ways to react when someone is hurting - give sympathy and advice and probably end up wrong, or stand back and let them suffer alone. I'd rather realise I was wrong afterwards than risk any chance that the person suffering genuine needs help.