I don't 'know' BigV, but I'm pretty sure his wife has been told this, and much more. If I remember right, he's even invited her here to check the place out.
Maybe writing things down so that she can read (and re-read) them at her leisure isn't a bad idea. Start a notebook that you can pass back-and-forth? Maybe taking the time to write thoughts down can help clarify exactly what is meant, and the other person can take the time to digest the thoughts without someone staring them in the face waiting for a reply...
Sometimes I know what I WANT to say, but in the heat of an argu, I mean discussion, the words just don't come out right. Once alone, I can compose myself and figure out what exactly is bugging me.
More often than not, I have mentally composed a post here at the Cellar, and that has helped me work through something IRL.
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