[BigV]

give me his number. I'll call him. You can play it any way you like. I'll be the bad guy. I'll be the new focus of his papd, which means bupkis to me, since I don't know him from adam's off ox.

Just frakin straight up, no chaser. Tell the man the facts. Of course, following up on your side of the deal is up to you. I have no credibility in that area. I talk a mean game, but I'm a luser when it comes to follow through. [/full disclosure]

Seriously, "Hey, Jack. We have to talk. Here's how I see things. A, B, C, etc. I want your input on this. If I don't get your input on these items, this will be the conclusion I have to draw, based on your choice to not engage me on these important subjects."

This has the beneficial effect of satisfying your need to explicitly state the issues as you see them, and your desires to engage him. His choice to respond, *even if it is silence*, which is still a response, is up to him. If he talks, great. You two can proceed from there. If he doesn't, he now knows that he has abdicated his responsibility in the matter to you. YOU get to choose the meaning of his papd silence. Pick how you would like to interpret it. silence == I'm moving out at the end of the month, and thanks for all the fish. or silence == I want to see these natural law fists of fury you punk ass bitch, or whatever. You take away from him the "control" of silence by telling him what his silence will be. You force him to either meet you in conversation, or let you pick the outcome. Both ways are wins for you. By the way, this strategy has endless replay value. if you talk then get stuck and you want to talk again...move the talking points and give the same outline. You still win. You both win.