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Old 10-01-2007, 01:45 AM   #4
limey
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Originally Posted by BigV View Post
oohhhh... rough night... very bad.
Big V, if what you've quoted is [or is similar to] your situation, then I think talking to the parties concerned is a start. Can you do that? Do you need/want a counsellor with you to help keep talks on track? Each (or either) party trying to work it out in their own head alone is not a method conducive to mutual understanding.
Some simple points (forgive me if they're too simple):
When talking about how you feel, don't say "you make me feel ..", just say "I feel ... when you ...".
Try not to say "always" when mentioning another's behaviour.
Allow the other party/ies to have their say, and politely request the same of them.
Good luck.
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