[queequeger]

True, but Duck brings up a good point, it is a skill that you can practice. I'm a huge flirt, both with and without intent, but I do remember a time that I would get gooey lips and rubbery knees around a girl I liked. It wasn't just a one time guts-up moment of saying "What do I have to lose?" It was time after time of forcing myself to try, making a total ass out of myself (Can't count the number of times I accidentally called a girl fat by accident!) and it only got a little bit easier every time. It's something you need to practice...