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Hime · 08-10-2007, 03:23 PM

Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on.

And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.

08-10-2007, 03:23 PM	#43
Hime Extraordinary Machine Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Outside of Washington, DC Posts: 307	Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on. And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.