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08-08-2007, 02:15 PM

Good lord... most of these are for people who cannot think for themselves.
Of course you are going to change!!!!
My wife just had one discussion, "what happens if we start to grow apart? (love means you want what is best for each other, even if it is not me)... You know this is who you are marrying and not someone you are going to change (that was mostly me)?"
It covered all of this crap. Oprah makes my skin crawl, she prays on people's insecurities by pretending to give advice about things that she should be telling you to fucking prioritize out of your life.
Years ago she would have been in a tent at the circus telling people's fortunes.
We had already been living together, so money and all the petty crap had been done.
We talk.

What shit like this does is make people, especially people who freak out about & fixate on little shit that does not matter (I hate to say it, but a LOT of young American women) when they should be happy about being in love and getting married.
"Oh god I did not like what he said about #___"
"What if he does not want to do #___" etc.... and off she goes, batshit about things that are meaningless and ten years later "OPRAH SAID YOU WOULD DO THIS!!!" as he looks at her with confused disgust.
I know I am generalizing and not in a flattering way... making a point about how she is condescending just by making the suggestion that people need something like this.

Dr. Phil is a criminal and Oprah is an accomplice....
Just set up a dialog, it will be different for each couple, depending on their personalities, their situation, background, communication and LISTENING skills and show some examples.
You can't just hand everyone the MadLib of marriage questions and expect it to be ok... it is going to cause FAR more problems than it solves.

08-08-2007, 02:15 PM	#7
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	Good lord... most of these are for people who cannot think for themselves. Of course you are going to change!!!! My wife just had one discussion, "what happens if we start to grow apart? (love means you want what is best for each other, even if it is not me)... You know this is who you are marrying and not someone you are going to change (that was mostly me)?" It covered all of this crap. Oprah makes my skin crawl, she prays on people's insecurities by pretending to give advice about things that she should be telling you to fucking prioritize out of your life. Years ago she would have been in a tent at the circus telling people's fortunes. We had already been living together, so money and all the petty crap had been done. We talk. What shit like this does is make people, especially people who freak out about & fixate on little shit that does not matter (I hate to say it, but a LOT of young American women) when they should be happy about being in love and getting married. "Oh god I did not like what he said about #___" "What if he does not want to do #___" etc.... and off she goes, batshit about things that are meaningless and ten years later "OPRAH SAID YOU WOULD DO THIS!!!" as he looks at her with confused disgust. I know I am generalizing and not in a flattering way... making a point about how she is condescending just by making the suggestion that people need something like this. Dr. Phil is a criminal and Oprah is an accomplice.... Just set up a dialog, it will be different for each couple, depending on their personalities, their situation, background, communication and LISTENING skills and show some examples. You can't just hand everyone the MadLib of marriage questions and expect it to be ok... it is going to cause FAR more problems than it solves. Last edited by rkzenrage; 08-08-2007 at 02:25 PM.