I'll admit I went through a bit of the same with my last girlfriend fresh'. She had a great habit of going to these seedy clubs with her girl friends and letting guys buy her drinks and all. She wasn't a cheater, never has been and never will be. But I got in this mindset of "well you can control your actions, but you can't control those of people around you. All it take sis one perv, one guy who's had too many and the worst could happen. Control what situations you put yourself in". That turns into a real slippery slope of controlling. Were her actions at all appropriate, in my mind of course not no question. However if you ride her for these things, you will cause her to think that you don't trust her.. and that's huge.
The best defense is a good offense here. If you're treating her right, she's happy and all, she most likely won't have a single reason to mess around or leave you. If she does anyway, then she's got attachment/intimacy issues and you don't want any of that.
The best thing you can do is keep a level head, and talk it out. Don't turn it into a huge ass fight, no one wins in the end with those. Tell her about your reservations about this guy, and ask her what she thinks. Keep cool man. If you really feel for this girl like you've told us, then it would stupid to let something like this ruin what you got.
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Originally Posted by glatt
That's perfectly understandable, fresh. I would probably feel the same way to some extent. I certainly wouldn't act on it like that though. Women don't find jealousy attractive.
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Hit the nail on the head there glatt.