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Jaydaan · 06-25-2007, 03:06 PM

If you were my child (mine are 20, 18, 17 and 12 btw), you could buy whatever you wanted.... and as soon as you lived in your own house... paying all your own bills.. you could wear them too!

Although I would want to know why you wanted them, and explain why I did not like them... usually there would be a compromise. For my girls, I have been known to allow the short skirts if there were boyshorts or opaque tights underneath. I try to explain the difference between personal style and expression and inappropriate/slutty. I have been known to allow tight pants on my son (he is 17) as long as he could sit, bend down, do yard work in them without being uncomfortable or splitting them. But I would not allow the falling off your body 30 sizes too big pants that show your ass, or underwear. I would rather the 70's 80's rock star too tight stuff, before I will allow the gang/rapper crap.

I suppose it comes down to respect more so than choices, although it would be the same for all the kids, mind you. If your parents did not like an outfit, be respectful and do not wear it around them... do what most of us did, go to a friends, get changed (put on make up etc...) then go out... just remember to change back before you go home.

Choices on appropriate clothes is not limited to teens, I have seen 30, and 50 year olds wearing things I would not be caught dead in as well. I suppose it comes down to this : try to think what your outfit says to: your teacher, your grandmother, your friends, your boss, strangers who you may have to talk with. If I was walking down the street, and a 17 yr old boy approached me in baggy clothes, hat on backwards, 20 chains around his neck..... I would be more leary than if the same kid in tight jeans and a t-shirt approached me. Image does matter, and your parents are probably just trying to make sure you understand that, even if they might be going about it wrong in your eyes.

06-25-2007, 03:06 PM	#6
Jaydaan Knight of the Oval-Shaped Conference Table Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Vernon, BC, Canada Posts: 378	If you were my child (mine are 20, 18, 17 and 12 btw), you could buy whatever you wanted.... and as soon as you lived in your own house... paying all your own bills.. you could wear them too! Although I would want to know why you wanted them, and explain why I did not like them... usually there would be a compromise. For my girls, I have been known to allow the short skirts if there were boyshorts or opaque tights underneath. I try to explain the difference between personal style and expression and inappropriate/slutty. I have been known to allow tight pants on my son (he is 17) as long as he could sit, bend down, do yard work in them without being uncomfortable or splitting them. But I would not allow the falling off your body 30 sizes too big pants that show your ass, or underwear. I would rather the 70's 80's rock star too tight stuff, before I will allow the gang/rapper crap. I suppose it comes down to respect more so than choices, although it would be the same for all the kids, mind you. If your parents did not like an outfit, be respectful and do not wear it around them... do what most of us did, go to a friends, get changed (put on make up etc...) then go out... just remember to change back before you go home. Choices on appropriate clothes is not limited to teens, I have seen 30, and 50 year olds wearing things I would not be caught dead in as well. I suppose it comes down to this : try to think what your outfit says to: your teacher, your grandmother, your friends, your boss, strangers who you may have to talk with. If I was walking down the street, and a 17 yr old boy approached me in baggy clothes, hat on backwards, 20 chains around his neck..... I would be more leary than if the same kid in tight jeans and a t-shirt approached me. Image does matter, and your parents are probably just trying to make sure you understand that, even if they might be going about it wrong in your eyes.