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snip~ but neither am I keen on taking this bullshit to some new relationship.
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Ah, the key to your dilemma.
After discovering the age old question, "Is the screwin' I get, worth the screwin" I take?", you evaluate things differently.
You may also wonder why the failure happened?
Who's fault?
Do you have the ability to have a successful relationship?
How much harder would you have to work, how much crap would you have to take, to have a successful relationship?
Is it worth it?
I'd suggest you'd be shooting yourself in the foot, trying to preplan limits to your tolerance. Instead, go with what's comfortable and play it by ear. You're much better at seeing and reading the signs now. That voice in the back of your head will warn you of impending bullshit. At that time you can decide if the present
she is worth it and flat out tell her you've reached your limit.
I've told this story before but it
bears repeating.
PA has the largest bear population in the lower 48, something like 8 or 9 thousand bears. There has been one man, connected with Penn State, that's been the state's "Bear Man" for many years. It the course of caring for the health and welfare of that many bears, he puts himself in harms way constantly. He does things like crawling into bear dens to check the health and count cubs, with a rope tied to his feet so they can pull him, or what's left of him, out of the den if Mama Bear's awake.
He was being interviewed by a reporter who asked him the scariest thing he'd done, the most terrifying situation he'd been in, during his 25, or so, years as "Bear Man"?
He said, "Dating after divorce".
