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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce
OK, it sounds like you were with this guy for a short time....a year, two tops. And you're 35. No previous boy friends or at least none you were serious enough about, to be traumatized about breaking up with them?
So this is the first time you thought seriously about marriage and commitment?
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Oh, I could only wish that that was the case. I was married for five years after dating for 2 1/2 years, so this isn't my first LTR (divorced in 2001). I felt serious enough about my ex, but we just didn't want kids together, and that was ok. This isn't my first relationship since my divorce, it's just the first time since then that I've felt that much or wanted a life with someone else. We were together for over a year, but it seems like so much longer.
I didn't mean to belittle you guys in any way by saying it's pathetic to be asking you all for advice, just that *I* feel pathetic not being able to handle my own issues. My line of thinking was "people break up every day and their lives don't end, why can't *I* get over it?" In fact, I'm sure there are walking wounded all over the place (4 of my friends have also become single again in the 10 days following my breakup), but that still is little consolation right now.
Sperlock, I'll probably be like you, still aching over this months later. My friends were stunned, saying when I told them of the breakup, "wow, I'm really sorry... I really thought you had found the one." (for future reference, that comment doesn't help...) I realize that I did a lot more giving and compromise in this relationship than he ever did, and I'm starting to realize that he's wayyyy too oversensitive and neurotic (hence why he's still unmarried 28 days from his 40th bday), but since I loved him anyway, none of that is speaking to my heart yet. *sigh*
Thanks for all of your replies and empathy. I feel a little less pathetic, which is something more than I had when I wrote all of that last night
