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It is interesting hearing about everyone's experiences. I think it's never OK to cheat, but I suppose for each couple, they have to decide for themselves what cheating is.
My wife over the last several months has gotten back in touch with a former boyfriend. He looked her up and contacted her. He got divorced a few years ago, and I assume he started thinking about his past and thought about her and decided to look her up. They've been exchanging e-mails, and he even sent us (really her) a Christmas card this year and a CD of some music that he likes and wanted to introduce to her. He lives about an hour away, but they've never gotten together in person. You can probably gather that I don't like it much. I haven't minded in the past when she has had male friends, but this time it bugs me because he's a former boyfriend.
The good thing is that she hasn't tried to hide any of it, and she's assured me that she has no interest in him romantically. She says she just cares about him like a friend because they had a shared history years ago. They were pretty serious at the time.
Our relationship is a good one, and she's never done anything that would make me suspect she would cheat on me. But I still have these jealous feelings whenever any mention of him comes into our lives. I've told her I don't really like it that they are in contact with each other, but I haven't made a big deal about it. She isn't cheating on me, but it feels a little like she is by paying any attention to this guy.
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