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Hi, Fresh. I don't know that you can effectively tell your gf how to improve, and it sounds like you're being calm and understanding and facilitating communication as well as you can. But as the others have said, you can't control or change someone else's behavior. You also aren't responsible to figure out whether she has a psych diagnosis, and you can't be walking on eggshells all the time or trying to keep her away from triggers.

You have some major priorities right now, in the form of finals week. Your future is on the line, and it's ok to set boundaries that protect that. Setting healthy boundaries is a good idea in general, but really important right now. I hope your gf will be able to think outside of her needs, but if not, you still have to take care of yours.

Often, people cope better when others in their lives set boundaries and make clear what is and isn't ok within the relationship. I hope that'll be the case for you.

All the best!