Maybe I'm a little more jaded and cynical than the next guy, but here's my two cents:
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Originally Posted by Clodfobble
Keep in mind it's also possible to slip into an "anti-game game." For example: Husband leaves dirty clothes on the floor. Wife gets pissed, Husband accuses her of playing games because she can't "expect him to read her mind," she should have asked him to pick up his clothes if that's what she wanted. Except it is a known fact that Wife never wants clothes left on the floor, thus Husband is intentionally playing dumb by requiring her to ask before he'll take action on his own.
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Is it possible that part of the game is searching for things to get bent out of shape over? I say this as a person that tended to be way more orderly than the ex was, and one of my consolation prizes after she left was that when I clean, it tends to stay clean, unlike when she was around.
But this example doesn't strike me as some sort of anti-game. At its core, it's still the same bullshit: One or the other isn't living up to the other's expectations, and rather than just saying so, the situation gets wrapped up in posturing and passive manipulation.
Off to go find my flame-retardant jumpsuit, just in case.
-disenchanted.