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Originally Posted by rkzenrage
Forgiveness and allowing someone to keep abusing you have nothing to do with each other.
Get a lock for your room... that too is simple. If your grandmother does not allow that, move.
She is as much of the problem as your sister while you are living there... it may actually improve your relationship.
It is not "cutting her out of your life", it is moving on with a healthy life for yourself.
Family are those who love and support you. I have many people whom I am related to that are not my family and many whom are my family that I am not related to... again, the two have nothing to do with each other.
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I agree. However, I had a lock on my room when I still lived there. She would pick the lock and get in. That is why I moved over a month ago, and why she doesn't know my address.
She is no longer my family. She has gone too far too many times for me to just let it slide. I will forgive her (it is going to take time), but I do that for me. She could care less if I forgive her. But I don't have to trust her. And I don't have to let her hurt me anymore. It is just so hard to turn my back on my family because of her. I feel like that is one more thing she is stealing from me. But I feel I have no choice. I think I mainly wanted to see what others thought so that I can feel more confident in my decision.
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Originally Posted by Stormieweather
Forgiveness does not mean 'condoning' or 'excusing' someone's behavior. Forgiveness is for you, not for the person you are forgiving.
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Amen.