[Stormieweather]

Forgiveness does not mean 'condoning' or 'excusing' someone's behavior. Forgiveness is for you, not for the person you are forgiving. It allows you to put to rest your anger and bitterness and fill that spot in your soul with something healthier.

Sadly, you are most likely going to have to write your sister off. Just as you would probably not associate with other drug addicts, you must remove her from your life. Dysfunction is contagious, in my opinion. When you have it in your life, it breeds more dysfunction. Always report her illegal activities as they relate to you, don't attend functions where she may be (explain to the family why), and protect your home and assets from her sticky fingers. The only thing you can do is hope and pray that she will one day hit bottom and wake up, before it's too late. You can't make Grandma stop being an enabler, either. She will have to recognize all on her own that she isn't helping by helping.

If your family refuses to recognize that you are behaving in the healthiest way possible, that is their problem. Family is important, but not to the point where they are detrimental to your well-being.

Good luck,

Stormie