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Iggy · 11-17-2006, 01:21 AM

Well, for one I have already had her arrested once and nothing came of it. She went to jail for a week, got out, and was put on probabtion again. I filed a police report Monday so that is out of the way. When I found out that she stole my credit card I knew I would be going to the police.

If my grandmother was not alive I would just pretend like I have no sister. I already know nothing I can do will help, and she needs to hit rock bottom. My grandmother is a huge enabler for her, and no matter what I say to her she just doesn't listen. But I can't help what she does, so I just have to seperate myself from the situation.

My problem is I love my grandmother and for the most part am pretty close with her. I don't want my sister to come between us, and that is basically what is happening. My grandmother is a devout Christian and so she is of the mind that you have to forgive someone no matter what. She is coming around somewhat, but she still enables Nicole because she would rather have her under her roof than on the streets doing who knows what.

The thing I don't think she sees is that my sister will do who knows what no matter where she is. I think it is way past time for the bridges to be burnt and NOT rebuilt, but I don't think my family is on the same page. And family is important to me, at least the ones that haven't fucked me over more times than I can count.

I think I might have to go to Al-Anon. She has been in and out of jail/juvie since she was 14. She has also been in drug treatment probably a couple dozen times. She tells them what they want to hear, and then gets out. It is always court ordered. I have lost all faith that the justice system will do anything about her. She always manages to do just under what could get her in deep shit.

Thank you all for your advice, but it seems as if this is a lose-lose situation. Unless my family realizes that I am doing what I have to do and what needs to be done (by cutting her as completely out of my life as I can) I am going to have to fight somewhat alone. I do have my SO with me. He has been the one to really help me realize how damaging she was being to me and help me come to terms with cutting her out of my life.

I know that once my grandmother passes away I will never see her again if I have anything to say about it. I am most likely going to change my phone number at that point so that she cannot even call me. But I can't do that until I am willing to not see my grandmother as she will not cut Nicole out of her life. Tough stuff. But thanks again for your thoughts.

11-17-2006, 01:21 AM	#4
Iggy Back and ready to tart up the place Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 850	Well, for one I have already had her arrested once and nothing came of it. She went to jail for a week, got out, and was put on probabtion again. I filed a police report Monday so that is out of the way. When I found out that she stole my credit card I knew I would be going to the police. If my grandmother was not alive I would just pretend like I have no sister. I already know nothing I can do will help, and she needs to hit rock bottom. My grandmother is a huge enabler for her, and no matter what I say to her she just doesn't listen. But I can't help what she does, so I just have to seperate myself from the situation. My problem is I love my grandmother and for the most part am pretty close with her. I don't want my sister to come between us, and that is basically what is happening. My grandmother is a devout Christian and so she is of the mind that you have to forgive someone no matter what. She is coming around somewhat, but she still enables Nicole because she would rather have her under her roof than on the streets doing who knows what. The thing I don't think she sees is that my sister will do who knows what no matter where she is. I think it is way past time for the bridges to be burnt and NOT rebuilt, but I don't think my family is on the same page. And family is important to me, at least the ones that haven't fucked me over more times than I can count. I think I might have to go to Al-Anon. She has been in and out of jail/juvie since she was 14. She has also been in drug treatment probably a couple dozen times. She tells them what they want to hear, and then gets out. It is always court ordered. I have lost all faith that the justice system will do anything about her. She always manages to do just under what could get her in deep shit. Thank you all for your advice, but it seems as if this is a lose-lose situation. Unless my family realizes that I am doing what I have to do and what needs to be done (by cutting her as completely out of my life as I can) I am going to have to fight somewhat alone. I do have my SO with me. He has been the one to really help me realize how damaging she was being to me and help me come to terms with cutting her out of my life. I know that once my grandmother passes away I will never see her again if I have anything to say about it. I am most likely going to change my phone number at that point so that she cannot even call me. But I can't do that until I am willing to not see my grandmother as she will not cut Nicole out of her life. Tough stuff. But thanks again for your thoughts.