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Originally Posted by rkzenrage
I don't know man... I can support my mom without telling her what to do, how to do it and when to.
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I've been thinking about this ... isn't it a "support ... control" continuum, with the parties involved almost inevitably having different views on where the switch happens?
Imagine this series of scenarios:
A person who is incontinent, and unaware of the fact that they are sitting in soiled clothes
A person who hasn't washed for weeks and smells of BO
A person who says they haven't washed their hair for years but you wouldn't know if they hadn't said
A person who doesn't take a shower as often as you do
There is, isn't there, a point where any one of us would step in and tell this person (let's assume we care about this person) to wash more often? But I expect the point varies for each of us, as it would if we were the person described above.
Is it the triple "advice" that bugs you, rk, "
what to do,
how to do it and
when to"? Can you ask her to tone it down a little? I'd like some pointers, as I know I can come over bossy and that's not how I mean stuff at all
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