[morethanpretty]

I kept trying out different responses els, but in the end the idea of being poly in a relationship is so unfathonable to me. I don't feel that I can give sufficient advice, other than do what you need to to feel comfortable and happy in your relationship. If you don't like the idea of another man satisfying your wife, tell her so. The sex aspect can be just as important as other areas of the relationship, don't down grade it b/c it seems only physical, for many (seemingly including yourself) it goes way beyond the physical. Perhaps a change in enviroment, i.e. romantic getaway or new bedroom methods would help the two of you out. You could even remodel the bedroom to make it sexier and more comfortable (add strategically placed mirrors, some silk sheets, aromatherpy candles ect). I read recently that the bedroom should be reserved for sex and sleep only, remove TV, radio (not alarm tho) make sure that you aren't eating/drinking (unless its for "fun"), or doing bills/work in there. I'm biased b/c I'm anti-poly (for myself atleast) but if there is any doubt in your mind I think that you should halt activity until such issues are completely resolved.