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Originally Posted by Stormieweather
Questions for bmwmcaw:
1) Would you marry a drug addict or alcoholic who had no sexual history?
2) Would you marry a virgin with a mental disease such as schizophrenia or bi-polar disorder?
3) Would you marry a woman with a violent past but who had never engaged in sexual activity?
4) Would you marry a member of a cult such as Scientology or Satanism but who had never had sex?
The point of these questions is that I think you are attaching way too much significance to a relatively minor part of what makes up a person. Being a virgin does not guarantee that a woman will be a good mother and wife. Nor does it guarantee that she will not cheat on you. Much more important is that the woman in question is loving, self-respecting as well as respectful of others, self-confident, empathetic, kind and has the same moral values as you do. If you find someone like that, chances are excellent that she will be faithful and raise happy, healthy children.
Stormie
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Its about character.
Why is it people seem so ready to disregard a persons character. No matter what your history is, it is part of who YOU are. If you or anyone else looks past it and feel comfortable with it then more power to you.
Your history matters because it is and always will be the best guide to your future. You are what you think and what you think determines what choices you make.
Being a virgin is IRRELAVANT!
People can run but cannot hide from their past. Under stress every human being reverts to their basic personality. All the layers of conditioned responses and masks we wear fall by the wayside. Your social and economic up bringing, your parents education level, the mentors or people you looked too to form the person you are, your self-images and your choices.
That’s why the question is asked in the first place on this string and others. Does sexual history matter and like everything else in life it does.
People on this board have evaded the issue or tried by belittlement of the topic or me, but the facts and the obvious cannot be denied. To do so is at your own peril. The divorce rate and broken families in the country is an indication of the level of denial that we have wittiness and read on this message board. The media glamorizes sex to the point where it seems as cheap and easy as changing underwear. It would seem the marketers of sex have a cadre' of followers on this board.
Sex without love is hollow and vacant. Love without faith, without commitment, without respect, now that’s what leads to meaningless sexual relationships that decay ones soul and denies a future partner that special uniqueness. To abstract sex cheapens everyone. That’s not me saying that; listen to your own heart.
Justify, rationalize, make light of won’t change what you feel in your heart and see in your soul.