[mrnoodle]

Nope, I try to be nice to everyone. If you treat women badly, you probably treat men badly. The men just ignore you; the women talk about it to their friends.

Men don't stay on the phone with each other for 3 hours dissecting the hidden meaning of what their date said that night. Women do. If you stay on the phone with a woman for 3 hours while she dissects, she sees you as a girlfriend.

Say you're on the phone with a girl. Your side of the conversation consists of "hey, what's up? dude, that party was crazy...yeah i know, huh?....nah, not without their top running back....right...exactly...yeah, i'm going to go this weekend....alright...later."

You are treating this girl as a friend.

Now, say it goes like this:

"That outfit looked great on you, don't worry about it....no, he's the crazy one....well, how do you feel about it?....no, it's definitely not you. You had every right to think that....look, why do you let people treat you that way? You deserve so much better......i know....I know......yep...... exactly.....awww, don't say..... no, no, no, I would've said the same thing..."

etc.etc.etc. for an hour. You're trying to be understanding, and a good friend, and a good listener, and all that other stuff. You're taking on the role of a girlfriend. Guys don't talk that way to each other, only to women. This means one of (EDIT) 3 things:

a) you "like her" like her on some level, whether or not you admit it
b) she is your sister or mother
b) you are gay

If none of the above is true, this conversation would have you balled up in the fetal position with discomfort, praying for nuclear war or the rapture to deliver you from this hell of female heart-sharing.