[Trilby]

bbro--I don't know you in the slightest, I only know what you have posted (and, omitted) here. My feelings come from having seen/heard this many times. These are my questions (ones you've never answered, and no, you certainly do NOT have to answer them to me or anyone but perhaps YOURSELF)

1) What number is this DUI for him? It cannot be his first. I got a DUI in '04 My first. I was not sent to jail, I was not put on probation (that was for something else) and I even got off on a 'failure to maintain distance' complaint because I didn't take the breathalizer. SO. How many DUI's are we talking? Because I have a feeling it's far, far from his first consequence of alcohol or drug abuse.

2) What did he do to land on probation? Perhaps if this was his 3rd, 4th, 5th DUI or was it something else? Maybe he did an B&E. Who knows? Doesn't really matter to anyone but you and him. Anyway--he is on probation and probation officers HIGHLY recommend that you be a very good citizen while on probation. I wonder why he messed up when he knew how seriously he was being scrutinized.

3) What did he do to fuck up probation?
And, be honest with yourself here.

4) how many times has he been married?

Probation officers are usually so overworked and overbooked that they only take real interest in those who pique the radar. WHY is the system against him? Have they dealt with him before? Do they KNOW him?

It's really no matter to me if you stay or go or sink your heart, soul and savings into this guy. It's YOU. YOU matter and I've a feeling you've given yourself away. That is what bothers me.

and, actually, I am rather reassured that you are 26. i thought you were younger.