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So, i was right, then. You just wanted us to pat you on the head.
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That's a little harsh Bri. I think she just wanted a receptive group of people to offload to. Is that really such a crime?
bbro. Don't be put off by this. Some of us are very eager to advise and some of us are very eager to crticise. That means we've read through your posts and formed an opinion. Take it as a mark of our good intentions.
Guys, give the girl a break eh? Many of us have come onto these boards when in distress and poured out our hurts to these pages. Sometimes, when life is a little too painful or confusing, it can help to write about them on here. It helps to hear if others have similar experiences, it helps to hear feedback. That doesn't mean one is contractually bound to taking that advice. Indeed, would it really be sensible to base life decisions on the opinions of people you've never met nor ever are likely to? People who only have the fragments of situation that you've been able to write about.
I've done it. Many of you have done it. Written about something that's really getting you down. We're a bunch of sometime friends and sometime combatants and that's what makes us a valuable resource, even if it's just a bit of banter when things look bleak.
So, in a year's time she might be here again, upset and the victim of a relationship gone wrong? The fact that she didn't heed the advice of the people here would not make her any less deserving of our sympathy in that situation. None of us know the future. None of us know the man she's talking about. We do not know that the advice we give is sound, we just know it's what we think we'd say if we had all the information.
I have a couple of rl friends who've been through some horrible times with men and flown in the face of advice they've been given. When it all went belly up for one of them, do you think rest of our little group turned our backs on them? Of course we didn't, we're mates. We did the only thing a mate can do in that situation : we got out the giant tub of icecream, several large bottles of wine and did our best to get her laughing again. That wasn't the time or the place to say we told her so.