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henry fitch · 11-07-2002, 04:48 PM

I'm gonna try and parse this a bit. In the Bad Old Days, marriages lasted a long time because women had been trained to ignore grievances (sp?) or they would be beaten? That divorce is more common now because women are no longer physically compelled to remain married? That if a woman decides to live with something that bothers her about her husband, for the sake of the marriage, it's probably because she's been oppressed by years of violence into thinking she has to?

Though I can't back this up by facts, I imagine a significant number of divorces are initiated by men. Even more unscientifically, I would like to put forward that men have frequently put up with shit from their wives without divorcing them. Is this because men have been beaten by their wives in the past? Doubt it. Although, they do say that 52% of spousal abuse victims are men...

I'm not trying to flame you, Juju, just trying to better understand what you're saying.

11-07-2002, 04:48 PM	#25
henry fitch Dry Nurse Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 23	I'm gonna try and parse this a bit. In the Bad Old Days, marriages lasted a long time because women had been trained to ignore grievances (sp?) or they would be beaten? That divorce is more common now because women are no longer physically compelled to remain married? That if a woman decides to live with something that bothers her about her husband, for the sake of the marriage, it's probably because she's been oppressed by years of violence into thinking she has to? Though I can't back this up by facts, I imagine a significant number of divorces are initiated by men. Even more unscientifically, I would like to put forward that men have frequently put up with shit from their wives without divorcing them. Is this because men have been beaten by their wives in the past? Doubt it. Although, they do say that 52% of spousal abuse victims are men... I'm not trying to flame you, Juju, just trying to better understand what you're saying.