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Originally Posted by DanaC
...dad can't throw anything away...
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xoxoxoBruce is your Dad!?!? Just kidding.
Unlike in 1984, you can walk down the stairs with him this time.
Sometimes our job isn't to save people from themselves but to provide comfort and companionship to them during their journey. Your dad knows the road he's on and he accepts it. He would like you to accept both him and his fate and for you to walk with him. He would love nothing more than for a moment with you where you both can forget about the burdens you carry around. Maybe this time, you could bring him some tea and a smile and a joke about taking a canoe ride together sometime before the warrantee expires.
You mother would like to be there for him, too. But she can't and she feels awful for it. It would be nice if you could let her off the hook.
Your dad can't bear to let go of you and your mother. Your mother can't bear to witness the inevitable fate of your dad and has no choice but to keep an emotional distance. You are the solution to both problems.
This has to be very hard and you certainly didn't do anything to deserve it. Your parents are very lucky to have a daughter like you. This burden has fallen on your shoulders and you are commended for not resenting it. While you are powerless to alter the coming course of events, there's nothing to say that you can't create some joy along the way. I always thought that was the best approach - to laugh along the way. There will be plenty of time to process it later and it'll be a lot easier if you have fond memories to help you through it.
I'm really sorry.