[BrianR]

I haven't seen any mention of a date. I seem to remember that going stag was not allowed but my memory of that time is hazy.

I find that it is easy to use gender-specific pronouns correctly when applied to the genderbenders...use whatever pronoun is appropriate for the gender the person in question is presenting to the world, no matter that you (or anyone else) is not fooled. I have several friends that are gay, lesbian and/or transvestite. Some of them wear clothing that is best left to the opposite sex. When my TV friends are dressed like women, I refer to them as women, even going so far as to use their chosen female names. And I revert back when they dress as males. Sometimes things get confused when I use BOTH names to identify one that has the same name as another friend but a different opposite-sex name. (eg John/Marsha refers to one in particular, differentiating them from the "Jon" who is NOT a TV)

In my humble opinion, this is much ado about nothing. Such rules should be restated that the clothing worn should be "tasteful" and specifically allow crossdressing. It is relatively rare anyway so what's the big deal? I understand (but have not seen a picture) that the prom dress in question was tasteful and appropriate. I'd have let it go, personally.