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yesman065 · 05-16-2006, 08:19 AM

Thanks guys and gals - We had another discussion last night and she is really scared that we will not be able to overcome the parenting issues because of the kids ages (17, 16, 14) and that her initial reaction was to run. She has been in a couple relationships with some real losers who have hurt her badly and she is not used to being with a guy like me who treats her well. She was feeling like I was turning on her and that the kids were more important to me. They are and I told her that in no uncertain circumstances. However, I also told her that she meant a lot to me and that I want to work this out with her as a couple and not let it be a devisive issue. She has lupus which prevents her from having any children of her own so that is a another issue we have in front of us. She also sid that it is hard for her to deal with the fact that every other weekend I have them and cannot see her. I know this is temporary, but her perspective is different than mine and she sees it as a major issue. We're trying to work it out. Any advice on this end of things - the kids - Dads new Girl - potential Stepmom who is very young???

05-16-2006, 08:19 AM	#8
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	Thanks guys and gals - We had another discussion last night and she is really scared that we will not be able to overcome the parenting issues because of the kids ages (17, 16, 14) and that her initial reaction was to run. She has been in a couple relationships with some real losers who have hurt her badly and she is not used to being with a guy like me who treats her well. She was feeling like I was turning on her and that the kids were more important to me. They are and I told her that in no uncertain circumstances. However, I also told her that she meant a lot to me and that I want to work this out with her as a couple and not let it be a devisive issue. She has lupus which prevents her from having any children of her own so that is a another issue we have in front of us. She also sid that it is hard for her to deal with the fact that every other weekend I have them and cannot see her. I know this is temporary, but her perspective is different than mine and she sees it as a major issue. We're trying to work it out. Any advice on this end of things - the kids - Dads new Girl - potential Stepmom who is very young???