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As painful as it was for you, I'm giving her kudos for her honesty. Particularly for recognizing her doubts and verbalizing them before meeting your children.
A woman who is disinterested or even resentful of your children will not make a good step-parent. She may just be nervous and afraid, but I wouldn't push her either way. A happy 'blended' family is going to entail a lot of baggage (there is an ex to consider as well) and in order to be successful, everyone has to be committed to it.
The age difference may or may not be the 'issue'. I dated a 39 year old when I was 21 and it was wonderful. However, his only child was 18 (almost like a sibling..lol) and didn't require any parenting or babysitting by me. The relationship ended when he made it clear he was done having children, and I hadn't even started. In your girlfriend's case, I think she is being quite mature about her limitations and abilities.
As MrNoodle says, your children should come first. There are many women who would welcome them. But trying to make a square peg fit in a round hole won't be successful and most likely will end up hurting everyone involved.
Good luck, and I'm sorry for you that this turn in the relationship has happened.
Stormie
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