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Munchkin · 05-01-2006, 02:47 PM

First of all, Im sorry for your daughter having to deal with the teasing... that age is the worst for that...middle school years suck (I know they did for me between 10 and 14) ...

Unfortunately, kids know about sexuality (even if they dont truly understand it) earlier and earlier.

Im young myself, but I remember being at a friends sleepover party when I was 12, reading a Judy Blume book that had some major sex scenes in it. We were all huddled together reading it...So Im sorry to say, 11 is not too young for the talk.

When I was 14 I thought only bad slutty girls had sex (this is 7th/8th grade).. .and I could pick girls out from my class that had been sexually active already..I thought it was so damn dirty...Then I found the internet. It totally corrupted me. In ways that Id hate to even admit....

11 SHOULd be too young...but unfortunately its not... but it is also very dependent on enviironment. My brother teaches elementary school in the South Bronx, and some of his 9 year olds talk about having sex... its scary...

My mom told me all that crap about how your virginity is your "gift" ... whatever... it didnt stop me from losing mine at 15 (which I totally regret) .. I think parents need to be more upfront with their kids... Tell them its not all its cracked up to be if you dont totally love the person.... Tell them how freakin dangerous it is, that one if four people have an STD and half of them dont even know it.... that you can get pregnant whether your protected or not and how that would KILL their chances at making a good life for themselves... How guys really do think with their pecker..etc...

Oh...and dont let her get online unless the computer is in your line of site.

Now it doesnt sound like this is a problem for your daughter since she isnt into guys yet... it seems to be more the issue of teasing... unfortunately, there isnt much advice to give on that one.Its realllly stupid that the other girls are calling her a lesbian... I guess its just the hyper sexualized version of being called a tom boy... Theres not too much you can do about that really except helping her to understand that these kids are jerks and she shouldnt take anythign they say to heart....easier said than done of course...

Is she active? Maybe introduce her to an activity thats a big confidence builder...like martial arts...or rock climbing...

EDIT:
Might wanna let the woman do the initial chat...but be prepared to let her know how young men think

05-01-2006, 02:47 PM	#3
Munchkin Colloquialist Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 76	First of all, Im sorry for your daughter having to deal with the teasing... that age is the worst for that...middle school years suck (I know they did for me between 10 and 14) ... Unfortunately, kids know about sexuality (even if they dont truly understand it) earlier and earlier. Im young myself, but I remember being at a friends sleepover party when I was 12, reading a Judy Blume book that had some major sex scenes in it. We were all huddled together reading it...So Im sorry to say, 11 is not too young for the talk. When I was 14 I thought only bad slutty girls had sex (this is 7th/8th grade).. .and I could pick girls out from my class that had been sexually active already..I thought it was so damn dirty...Then I found the internet. It totally corrupted me. In ways that Id hate to even admit.... 11 SHOULd be too young...but unfortunately its not... but it is also very dependent on enviironment. My brother teaches elementary school in the South Bronx, and some of his 9 year olds talk about having sex... its scary... My mom told me all that crap about how your virginity is your "gift" ... whatever... it didnt stop me from losing mine at 15 (which I totally regret) .. I think parents need to be more upfront with their kids... Tell them its not all its cracked up to be if you dont totally love the person.... Tell them how freakin dangerous it is, that one if four people have an STD and half of them dont even know it.... that you can get pregnant whether your protected or not and how that would KILL their chances at making a good life for themselves... How guys really do think with their pecker..etc... Oh...and dont let her get online unless the computer is in your line of site. Now it doesnt sound like this is a problem for your daughter since she isnt into guys yet... it seems to be more the issue of teasing... unfortunately, there isnt much advice to give on that one.Its realllly stupid that the other girls are calling her a lesbian... I guess its just the hyper sexualized version of being called a tom boy... Theres not too much you can do about that really except helping her to understand that these kids are jerks and she shouldnt take anythign they say to heart....easier said than done of course... Is she active? Maybe introduce her to an activity thats a big confidence builder...like martial arts...or rock climbing... EDIT: Might wanna let the woman do the initial chat...but be prepared to let her know how young men think Last edited by Munchkin; 05-01-2006 at 02:50 PM.