[Tonchi]

OK, you found out she was stealing but you just took your stuff back and didn't even say anything. ....You guess you should have talked to her then but you didn't... you didn't get a chance to.... you didn't have time to talk about it.... She's lazy and never has any money because she refuses to do any chores to help around the house, BUT YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. Yes, you definitely have a problem, but trying to solve it by finding "somebody else" to do your parenting procedures is not going to work. This kid has it made. She is doing whatever she wants to do or nothing and you just wring your hands because the negative behavior continues???? What you NEED is a Family Counselor for ALL of you, and quick.