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I am sorry to hear about your sister's problem, Iggy. It is very painful to watch someone you care about destroy themselves.
I suspect that your sister's "sober" actions are all about getting high again as quickly as possible, from what you describe.
Addiction is a very devastating and mis-understood condition. I talked about it once with a psychologist who told me that most studies now show show that a propensity to addiction is part genetics and part environment. The genetic predisposition to addiction exists along a continuium of sorts. For example one person can go through every possibly tragedy - lose their entire family in some catastrophe, become ill with an incurable disease, and end up out ont he streets and still not become an alcoholic. Someone else might lose a beloved spouse and drink alcoholicly for a while, a third person might be raised in the perfect home, have everything in life going for them, and then they pick up their first drink of alcohol and become addicted immediently and end up either drinking themselves to death or into the rooms of AA. Most of us fall somewhere in between the extremes of this spectrum.
Your sister's low self esteem and drug abuse fuel each other. The worse she feels about herself, the more she uses drugs; the more she drugs the worse she feels about herself. She does have the ability to turn her life around, however. Even if she somehow aquired every last gene switched on for addiction, she can still get into recovery if she decides that she wants to live rather than die. But its her choice. All you can do is pray for her, and, really, you might find a couple of Al-Anon meetings to be very helpful for YOU!
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