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First of all, congratulations!
The only change is that you are making a lifetime promise to be with this person. That's obviously a very big deal. It a good thing if you have chosen the right person. It's a bad thing if you haven't. Pretty simple.
I can't tell you why people are advising against marriage. My wife and I just celebrated 12 years yesterday. I can't say enough good things about marriage. It rocks! Just choose your spouse wisely. We lived together before we were married. Even when we lived together, we were clear with eachother that we intended to spend the rest of our lives together. We made the promise, but without the formality. For us, there was little change between that and getting married. For others, who are just casually living together without that type of commitment, there may very well be a big adjustment to married life.
If you do decide to get married, I think it's a great idea to have premarital counseling. It tells you a lot about one another and helps to give you tools that use can use to make your marriage work better.
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