[OnyxCougar]

I don't think I want him to "go away", I just don't know how to handle it.

I told the 17 year old about it, and he's curious, but also wondering what to do. The first thing he asked is "Do they know where we are?"

I think I'll just keep in email contact with Shaun and when the 17 year old asks, I'll give him the address. That way I can get a little comfortability with Shaun over time and we can tackle this. I want the 17 year old to know the other part of his family, but due to circumstances it will be on his terms. *shrug* That's all I can do.