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07-22-2005, 10:05 PM

I've been wondering why you seemed so nervous - you know - missing cellerites, where can we reach one another if the cellar vanished, etc.

Well, we both know the odds are against anything happening. Zillions of people fly everywhere every day, take cruises, etc., and are none the worse for the experience. Heck, even 99.9% of our guys come back from Iraq.

But what's logic in the face of a BIG HORRIBLE CAN'T BE TALKED OUT OF IT FEAR? I'm not putting you down - my ex-husband, a rational person and a manly man in every single way, had a deep seated fear of flying long before 9/11 was ever dreamed of. It made travel difficult, to say the least. When there was no way out of it but to fly, he would drink a pint of bourbon and pour himself onto the plane and then this big 6'3" guy who fought forest fires without blinking an eye, went hunting in the darkest, wildest areas of the mountains and faced down cougars and grizzlies without a second thought, would sit quaking in his seat and grab hold of my hand during take-off and lift-down and bumpy parts in between.

What I would say is that the point of a vacation is to have a good time, right? It doesn't sound as though the European cruise would be a good time for you. And frankly, all those places in 8 days, you are not going to see anything, anyway. You'd be better off reading about them in a travel book.

My suggestion is to opt for a more soothing close to home experience. If you ever get the chance to see Europe properly - not some wham, bam, thank you ma'am fling, THEN consider working on your fear of foreign countries. For the trip you're describing, its not worth it and no shame changing plans.

How does your wife feel?

07-22-2005, 10:05 PM	#5
marichiko Guest Posts: n/a	I've been wondering why you seemed so nervous - you know - missing cellerites, where can we reach one another if the cellar vanished, etc. Well, we both know the odds are against anything happening. Zillions of people fly everywhere every day, take cruises, etc., and are none the worse for the experience. Heck, even 99.9% of our guys come back from Iraq. But what's logic in the face of a BIG HORRIBLE CAN'T BE TALKED OUT OF IT FEAR? I'm not putting you down - my ex-husband, a rational person and a manly man in every single way, had a deep seated fear of flying long before 9/11 was ever dreamed of. It made travel difficult, to say the least. When there was no way out of it but to fly, he would drink a pint of bourbon and pour himself onto the plane and then this big 6'3" guy who fought forest fires without blinking an eye, went hunting in the darkest, wildest areas of the mountains and faced down cougars and grizzlies without a second thought, would sit quaking in his seat and grab hold of my hand during take-off and lift-down and bumpy parts in between. What I would say is that the point of a vacation is to have a good time, right? It doesn't sound as though the European cruise would be a good time for you. And frankly, all those places in 8 days, you are not going to see anything, anyway. You'd be better off reading about them in a travel book. My suggestion is to opt for a more soothing close to home experience. If you ever get the chance to see Europe properly - not some wham, bam, thank you ma'am fling, THEN consider working on your fear of foreign countries. For the trip you're describing, its not worth it and no shame changing plans. How does your wife feel?