[BigV]

BH:

Yes, of course, we ponder the "Why?", but for myself, once we were over the initial grieving period (like that first ding in the door of a new car, y'know?), the "Why?" was only important in the context of "what is the best strategy to cope?" Naturally, why is important, but it doesn't reign over our lives. Even in situations where the disability is "reversible", like with hearing aids or cochlear implants, the why factors into the decision. But. But for us, the how will you get along each day was the major focus. How will we prepare our young child (formerly young child, off to university this fall!!) to cope. That's the focus for us, really. Coping.