[plthijinx]

i was blindsided by my ex. a month and a half after the adoption of our son was completed, she left. no counciling no talking about it. just left. so definitely sit down and talk. our problem was much like lookout's. only we never talked and the relationship exploded. with a 1 year old. and now, today it's my mommy this, my daddy that. he still hasn't figured out the situation but that comes with age and maturity. so anyway, pick a time and talk. but do have some rules to go by, for instance only one person talk at a time and NO yelling/screaming. also, take a pen and paper to write down anything you might want to bring up while the other is talking. oh, and good luck!