[melidasaur]

I'm a big advocate for attending the first 2 years at a community college... it's inexpensive and there are a lot of really good ones (probably bad ones too, but that's another point). Once they have finished their first two years and required core classes at an affordable price, they can transfer to anywhere they want, as long as they pay for it themselves. You take care of the first two years - then cut the cord and have them assume some major responsibility and take care of the rest. I know a lot of people who went this route and it seems to work out. If the kids wanted to go somewhere expensive, the kids had to pay for it. If they do well at their community college, there is also a world of scholarships available to them too.