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Originally posted by perth
juju, i grew up in the same kind of household. well, with my father at least. for a while when i was about 9-11, my father insisted that i address him as 'sir'.
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See, it's this kind of purposeful humiliation that makes me
so angry. How can you love someone and then tell them, "i'm better than you"?
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Originally posted by perth
dont really know what happened to him being 'dad', as that is the title i want most out of this world. i think part of the problem is that partents dont try to share their interests with their children. i love the outdoors, video games, photography, and various other things which i hope to expose my son to, to connect with him as a friend as well as a father. understanding though, that children will develop their own interests and goals to pursue, is important as well. i was never interested in football or wrestling when i was young, but i was pushed into those things by my father because 'thats what men like'. i resent that, and as long as my son develops healthy interests, it doesnt matter to me if theyre my ideals. all that matters is that he be supported in those pursuits. if my son is quarterback of his high school football team, you can be damn sure ill be at every game, even if i dont know necessarily whats going on.
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Yeah, I wouldn't really want to force my kids into any particular interests. I'm sure they'll like all kinds of things that I don't. But it's like I said before -- if you want to be at least partial friends with your kids, you need to at least pretend to be a little bit interested in their boring nonsense. Otherwise, you don't really love your child as a person. You just love the idea of having a child.