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james was, officially, unplanned. we had been married about 14 months, and we had talked about it quite a bit. i think we both wanted one, but were unsure whether or not we were ready. all it takes as a bit of irresponsibility, though in this case the irresponsibility might have been slightly intentional. ill never forget the night we got a pregnancy test. it was one of those ones that changes colours within 3 minutes if youre pregnant. i started dinner and she did her thing. she rolls into the kitchen not a full minute later and says "that didnt take no damn 3 minutes!".
i think if we had waited until we felt like we were ready, it never would have happened. i dont think you can fully prepare for something like this. i think it boils down to how you want your future to play out. i really wanted kids, but i did not want them to be just leaving home when im 50 years old. i can see how other people decide to wait until later in life though, because they have plans for the present.
~james
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