[LCanal]

This is my take ,but relationships are by nature personal as are individual’s feeling so you are the only one who can solve your dilemma.
It’s spring when everyone’s heart turns to love, the future, happy sun filled days etc.. Which in part explains your quandary.

A guy’s perspective.

I have many friends in a beachside community and they are happy “single” and just like to swim, golf, ride m/bikes, read, relax etc.. I guess in a way they’ve dropped out and don’t want a regular job with all the restrictions on one’s time that they entails. If they want female companionship they go and find it, if they don’t ….

CW. You want a steady guy but no necessarily exclusively as described. Yes?
HE: Wants essentially the same but not necessarily the extended “sleep-overs” relationship thing.

You are obviously not happy with the status quo otherwise you wouldn’t have asked.

You don’t need ANYTHING else from him? Are you happy being alone?

From my experience it all starts out Ok but gradually women want more than they claim. Women are always trying to make the “relationship” work whereas guys are just happy being intimate pals. Some guys just don’t want to be responsible for others. Maybe they’ve done that before. Some guys are not “relationship” types. Oh they might settle down etc., because that’s what society, family, friend expect but they are not absolutely happy.

I don’t believe in this there’s someone for everyone romantic BS. I believe there are lots of people for everyone and in the ability to love more than one person. I’m not a stud by any means but I’ve had quite a few sexual partners. Every one has a special place in my heart, even if it was a quid pro quo relationship, some more special than others admittedly.

If he spends more time with you than with “others” and you spend more time with him. If he phones you frequently just to say hi, etc.. If you can phone him just to say Hi, without any other “agenda. Then it’s probably already working for him.”

Sounds like it’s you that has to do all “ the work” so it’s not working for you. If so there are three solutions. Accept the part of him he’s willing to give, use this relationship as a stable base to explore others or get out cold turkey. I would suggest for self-esteem, confidence, and peace of mind the second alternative.

It’s spring Happy Hunting.

PS shoulder always available