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The longer you stay with him, the more your self esteem is going to plummet. You are in love with a guy that doesn't want to love you because for some reason, you're "not the one".
And I won't even try to say I know the best way to get over somebody and move on, because my methods tend to lean towards self-destructive- but they work.
You could either move 2000 miles away from him so that it would be impossible to see him without a lot of planning and money. (It worked like a charm when I left my ex-husband!)
OR: Start reading self-help books every morning when you wake up and every night before bed. Actually brainwash yourself with them. Anthony Robbins is great for this. Read them a lot- they start to sink in. Then they make you feel like you are a worthy person again and change is good and you're ready for it...
Brainwash yourself to believe that the only thing important in the whole wide world right now is your happiness. Do whatever it takes to make yourself happy. In my case, I maxxed out a credit card, dressed well and partied hard. I also had a string of shallow relationships where I was the rejector.
It works because it takes your mind off of HIM. It keeps you busy. And you get to see that there are plenty of guys out there who will love you - and that they are all different.
There's someone for everyone. I don't like guys who are too mushy and sweet and nice either- I know where you're coming from- but they all love differently and you'll find your type if you get yourself out there.
Come up with a plan. A plan to make yourself happy. A plan to keep yourself busy at night. A plan for what to do when the phone rings and you know it's him, a plan for what to do if you cry, if you're lonely, etc- and then erase him from your life.
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