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Originally Posted by staceyv
is he bisexual?
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Why did you ask that?
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You are the one doing the loving and he's not- and it seems impossible to you that this could be true because of all the feelings you have when you're near him.
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Mmm. Is it just there, the love, waiting for both people to pick up on it? Or is it just one person's emotional imagination.
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Originally Posted by staceyv
He doesn't have those feelings and he's confusing the hell out of you because he doesn't want to hurt you. Maybe he feels guilty for stringing you along. Maybe he likes you as a friend only, but he keeps the romance there so you'll stick around, because he knows it wouldn't be the same if you were strictly platonic? Even though you're not having sex, is he sleeping in the bed with you?
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Yes, all that's true, I think. There isn't really any romance, just a bit of playfulness. We haven't had sex in ages, and sleep in the same bed probably once or twice a week. But while we used to lie very close, he's started moving away from me over the last few months, like right at the beginning. He said the first time that he didn't want to have sex or get too close, that it would mess things up.
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Originally Posted by staceyv
You said that his last relationship ended badly. It's really reeeeally hard for some men to ever open up again after a heartbreak.
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Probably a part of the problem, though not all of it. I think he could overcome that if he really was... interested.
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It's all in the mind. If you're not ready to fall in love, you just won't let yourself. He isn't going to let himself. Maybe someday in the future he'll realize he's ready and you two will be the best thing ever, but I would'nt bother waiting around.
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If I was to go, it certainly wouldn't be because I wasn't 'bothering'. I
can be bothered to wait, if it's worth it. I just don't know. I don't want to throw away this friendship... although it is quite one-sided... I don't know where I'd go. I haven't got any idea about anything right now.