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Originally Posted by jaguar
keep perspective and really above all, keep an open and honest dialogue
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I think - as a couple - we could manage this. He thinks I will lose perspective and will always want something more from him, which (frustratingly) has proven true all along. I have always wanted more from him, but I think that is because I don't even have a 'base level' relationship. He calls me his 'friend'. If I was his 'girlfriend' I know I would never want anything more than that, and I could retain my clarity/honesty/openness.
I have explained all this to him, and he says he believes me, and that maybe it's because he's afraid HE will lose perspective. I think he's just saying that as a possibility - because he's so damn rational - and if he secretly, underlyingly wanted a relationship, he'd go for it and not hold back for whatever fear he may conjure up.
I think you're right - either I'm taking myself for a ride (because he's always maintained his position and never led me on, not verbally anyway) - or I'm way ahead of myself and need to just let things be.