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Originally Posted by mrnoodle
I honestly hadn't thought of this approach, and it looks good on the surface. But what happens when a parent objects? How long to hold a child, and at what distance? How could the video have shown what was being whispered in the ear? Where's the line between good touching and bad touching if you are restraining a child? Don't give me the logical answer, give me the lawyer's answer.
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Look, I can't speak for other parents. Duh. As a parent of MY kids, for myself, I'll say this.
The video won't reveal what's being whispered in the kid's ear. So I'll ask. I'll ask the teacher and my kid. I'll combine that infomation with everything else I learn about the situation and see if anything stands out.
The line between good touching and bad touching is approximately what your good sense tells you it is. A ballpark estimate? Areas covered by a regular bathing suit are the out of bounds areas. And another big clue, have another adult present. Makes everyone a little more comfortable. Shit, have more kids present if it's appropriate. For example, if a kid's freaking out because he's being teased because he had an accident in his pants, then maybe it's adults only, no additional kids. I'm saying, be open. I mean if the video's rolling, then what will you try to get away with that you can't defend in court.
Ok, you just asked for the laywer's answer... don't know. not a lawyer. What I know of lawyers is that they have a duty to their clients. And the client is parents and kids in this case. Soooo... back to me.
If I find out that it was bad touching, and it was a crime of opportunity, occasioned by my kid's tantrum--he's goin down. ALL inappropriate touching is verboten. But damn. If it's not inappropriate touching, then it's not. The end.
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Originally Posted by mrnoodle
This is a litigious society, and that teacher was hobbled by it. She can't lose her job over one tantrum. Calling the cops for a 5 year old is silly, but in the heat of the moment, terrified of angry parents and school boards, the teacher did what she thought was best.
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Litigious society. Fuckin fight the power! Don't sue someone today.
Gonna lose my job. Hell, you were looking for a job when you found this one, weren't you? Maybe this isn't your field.
Terrified of parents and school boards? Time to renew that application down at Starbucks, baby.
Be a force for good. Imagine that you're not the only one, and treat others accordingly. Admit your mistakes, and learn from them. Acknowledge that others do exactly the same thing. Do your best. Communicate what you're trying to accomplish to the kids, the parents, the other staff. Review your own goals and motivations for this kind of work. Be aware that this shit happens and how will you improve next time. Don't give up.