[mrnoodle]

Screw. What a romantic word.

I don't think anyone here is the authority on who you should or should not spend your life with. However, the limited information we've received tends to be negative. He won't keep the house even remotely sanitary, you have to safeguard the rent money or he will piss it away, he (used to) spend all his emotional capital on another woman even though he was with you, he doesn't meet this need or that need. You, on the other hand, play power games with towels hanging on the shower and nastygrams written on the seat of the shitter. You'll let him "make love" to you only in mock rape scenarios every week and a half, and then only out of gratitude that he hasn't dumped you because of your propensity to "be a raging bitch, throw things, be stubborn, lose my temper, complain, walk around with messy hair and no makeup, and call him "buttface."

The positives? You have fun when you go out, he buys you stuff when you "need" it, doesn't buy anything for himself, and puts every spare cent he makes towards debt.

The last thing is a good "husband" quality. The preceding three are "boyfriend" qualities, and everything up to then is "codependent". Unless you're leaving out a major part of your relationship that you haven't shared with us (and that's certainly your right -- it's your personal life), it just sounds like you are getting a raw deal.